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July 2025
Newsletter
Allowing emotions - the hidden strength within us.

The lens through by which we experience life is shaped by our emotions.
Whether we recognize this or not, whether we feel like we are in “control”
by staying detached, still doesn’t address the inner struggles, pain and hurt we have felt in life - either during childhood or still in our present circumstances. We allow ourselves to feel our emotions only, when we feel safe in a trusted space. A safe place can be our home, a person, a place
or a memory we can connect with, providing this feeling of safety
where we are able to let go.
We allow our feelings to come up and out.
Often, the familiarity of staying in the pain makes us feel “right”.
Our feelings are justified. We hold on to that justification without understanding the consequences of the continuous cycle of avoidance.
The ego gets in the way and we don’t want to be “wrong”.
Even if that feeling is hurting us more, the ego claims the justification
and therefore perpetuates it. It continues in a vicious cycle of blame,
feeling sorry for ourselves and mind games.
The consequences of seeing our choices and taking responsibility for them, gives us the freedom to change the trajectory of our misery.
That includes, acknowledging having made a decision not in our highest and best interest and the chance to correct it by making another decision.
Hence, we create another outcome.
However, to achieve that, we have to be honest with ourselves and our emotions. For many of us, it is a huge leap of faith that whatever happens next, we are safe. When we allow our emotions and acknowledge how we feel, the intensity of our emotions lessen and we can slowly regain our peace.
Wishing you the courage to allow your emotions.
Remember, it’s a process and we can get plenty of practice.
Have the courage and give your heart permission to be soft
and watch how others will respond favorably to you.